Posted 1 month ago

Demisexual?

5secondssex:

So I’ve never been able to be attracted sexually to someone unless I feel a strong friendship developing and have a tight bond with them. Yes, I can find someone attractive, but the appeal of fantasizing about someone or wanting to have sexual interactions (kisses,touches,sex,etc.) never seemed…

You have nothing to be ashamed of. :)

Demisexuality is defined as: demisexual is a person who does not experience sexual attraction unless they form a strong emotional connection with someone. It’s more commonly seen in but by no means confined to romantic relationships.

So yeup, that seems to fit your discription. Don’t be worried if a label doesn’t fit you exactly or if you feel like you want to change later. Labels are good in the sense 1) they give a predefined term for something, so you don’t always have to keep explaining yourself, 2) they give you ‘There’s a name for it’ feeling, so you know your not alone, which allows you to 3) find a group to discuss and feel comfortable in.

Yes, some people don’t think demisexuality is a ‘valid’ sexuality. But some people think Homosexuality isn’t a sexuality but a lifestyle, others think you actually can’t be bisexual you’re just in denial of your homosexuality, that pansexuality is the same as bisexuality and so on. If you find comfort in identifying as demisexuality, go right ahead.

Here’s a link to the definition on the Aven wiki page:
http://www.asexuality.org/wiki/index.php?title=Demisexual

Demisexuality is often grouped with Asexuality and Gray-asexual, so sites like Aven may be helpful to you.

Posted 1 month ago

fashionistaofthesepulchre:

Why did Tumblr think it was a good idea to invent a sexuality that feeds into the idea that an asexual can be cured if they meet the right person? I’ll just never understand…

That’s a bit like saying bisexuality feeds into the idea of homosexuals being cured if they find the right opposite partner.

While it IS true that some people do identify as asexual, then later demisexuality, and it’s not a bad thing to keep an open mind, that doesn’t mean demisexuality is a bad thing or shouldn’t have been ‘invented’.

It just means you’re going to have to deal with one other incorrect idea to respond to. 

Posted 1 month ago

rikmayallinthetardis:

Out of curiosity, could you take a moment to reblog this if you believe that demisexuality exists? I’m demisexual, and I feel like demisexuality goes really under the radar, even within the asexual community umbrella. A lot of people don’t believe that it exists, and even within the ace community, demisexuality is still questioned as being legitimate, although we share the same flag. So reblog this is if you believe it exists. image

Posted 2 months ago
I NEVER SAID I WAS SPECIAL all I want is for people to stop bashing on who I am! It's like saying bisexuals are seeking attention bc they are attracted to boys and girls, it's just plain rude!
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artemuscainpotato:

It isn’t. At all. You’re only really attracted to people you got to know? Wow, that’s every single human in history ever (barring asexuals of course)

And don’t compare us bisexuals to “demisexuals.” That’s like comparing candy to “ice cream ghosts.” Because one exists and the other doesn’t. 

Well hang on. 

Is it every single person in history? 

I know plenty of people who are attracted to someone from first sight. After all, porn would be kinda hard to get off to if everyone in the world only were attracted to people they had an emotional relationship with. One night stands would be a LOT less common. Prostitutes would become less popular.

Sexual orientations are about who you are sexually attracted to.
Demisexuals are sexually attracted to people they are emotionally involved in. 

Homosexual men and Bisexual men can be sexually attracted to men. However, in the case of the homosexual man, he’s exclusively (or near, kinsey scale and all that) attracted to men. Both Demisexuals and Non-demisexuals can be attracted to people they’re emotionally involved in. But Demisexuals are exclusively attracted to people they are emotionally involved with.

So yes, one would hope that people are sexually attracted to the person they’re dating. It’s not always the case, as sometimes romantic attraction and sexual attraction doesn’t match up, but it’s the norm. In which case, yes, many people are sexually attracted to people they’re emotionally involved in. But that’s not the point.

With the arguement of it just being selective? ‘Being selective’ is to Demisexuality as Celibacy is to Asexuality. Being selective is a choice, not an orientation. You can be sexually attracted to a random stranger but not choose to sleep with them, because they’re a random stranger. A demisexual wouldn’t be sexually attracted to a stranger to begin with.

Demisexuality is a valid label, and not people trying to be special, or shame others for having less emotionally involved sex, or anything else.

Posted 2 months ago

Argentum Regio!

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Argentum Regio is a Neverwinter Nights (1) persistent online world. With over 1500 areas to explore, and unique scripts including:

  • Abiltity to swim, jump and fly- movements not available in the original game that allows for more exploration and mobility.
  • Hunger, thirst and fatigue- a small script adding to the immersion of the server, with different foods and drinks having different affects.
  • Lycanthropy and Vampirism- fully scripted. Were cats, wolves and bears need to avoid the full moon, or risk changing into a beast- sometimes a character can control themselves, sometimes they can’t. You must eat certain substances (meat, milk, honey) to survive. Vampires are near impossible to kill, but cannot stand the daylight- and need to feed on blood to survive. Fully scripted to pass on to other characters in certain situations and attacks.
  • More spells added- Neverwinter nights could only script a few spells they thought would add to game play- Argentum Regio has added over a hundred more spells from the DnD spell book, allowing for spell casters to reach their full potential.
  • Extra immersion scripts- annoyed that your druid/shifter had such limited shapes to change into, or that the shapes seemed 2D? Arg-reg has scripted more level based shapes for RP purposes, and scripted shapes to reflect their abilities more- run faster as a cat, fly as a wyrmling, hunt down prey via scent as a wolf. Thieves can break through windows, con people, hide in objects, Paladins and Clerics get stronger or weaker with divine favour, Dragon diciples get different abilities depending on which draconic blood they carry..
  • More races added- The standard DnD subraces are fully scripted, and with DM/GM permission you can even play monster races- although you must be prepared to face the consequences of being a monster in a civilised world…

We’re always looking for more players.

If you’re new to neverwinter nights or NWN online, no worries- the player base and DMs are well practiced as helping out new players get settled in. 

If you’re an experienced hardcore RPer- Feel like a challenge? We’re always happy to get experienced players, and if you feel like joining the game of politics, taking control of areas, fighting of other guilds, and trying to discover the well hid secrets of the world… Enter the game.

Check out the forum and wiki for more information:
http://aldohral.forumotion.com/forum
http://argentumregio.wikia.com/wiki/Main_Page

Posted 3 months ago

diefantasie:

Elf by “bayardwu”

(A World of Fantasy)

Van Elfing, huh?

Posted 5 months ago

theanimalblog:

Dirk one of the Galapagos tortoise tries out a rope kebab of apples/peppers and other fruits at London Zoo  Picture: PAUL GROVER

"Dirk, one of the Galapagos tortoises, tries out a rope kebab of peppers, vegetables and pears"
Cus that grammar was terrible and their ain’t no apples.

Posted 10 months ago

Gah, this Facebook page annoys me so much. I stumbled upon it during the same sex marriage debates, and occasionally look at it again in morbid curiosity. This is just the lastest stupidity shown on the page, and not even the worse. Here, the page is calling out the show ‘The Walking Dead’ for polluting itself and trying to shove ‘the homosexual agenda’ down their throats. Why? Because a implied lesbian couple kissed each other on the cheek and- GASP- no one was disgusted! Now people on this page are calling out the the characters to be killed off as quickly as possible.

This is the same page which deliberately misgenders trans* people, calls homosexuals deprived perverts, claims any same sex couples with children are child abusers and are generally dicks about everything.

But Facebook can’t take them down due to religious freedom (which I do support) but that’s dispite the fact many of the followers comment on how ‘the gays’ should die/be killed, how trans people are messed up rapists, how straight people are being repressed and treats ‘traditional marriage’ like it’s an endangered species. 

And if you disagree with anything on the page? Comment deleted and instant ban. They won’t accept even polite arguments. 

I normally don’t like calling out things like this, because it seems like trouble stirring, but this has just pissed me off. It was this page that provoked my previous rants as well. I just can’t understand how there’s actually people like this…

Posted 10 months ago

bike rides and high fives: just gonna say it againA) you dont have to clarify that “not all...

treehouseforwimps:

just gonna say it again

A) you dont have to clarify that “not all asexuals are sex repulsed!!!” when you talk about asexuality. there is NOTHIN WRONG with being sex repulsed. i am sex repulsed so ya’ll kinky queers can frickin deal

B) why do people always have to frickin say that some asexuals do have sex? like why? people are allowed to frickin never ever have sex and hate it and think its gross like why is this such a hurdle, i just get twitchy when eeeeeevery ace awareness post/cutesy comic/etc HAS TO SAY that some aces fuck like its important 

You’re acting like clarifying all the different sides to Asexuality is a bad thing, and as you’ve pointed out here, people clarify the some Asexuals are sex repulsed AND some have sex. Clarifications like these are a good thing. Just because someone is pointing out that not all Aces are sex repulsed doesn’t mean they are bashing those who are. By pointing out some aces are not virgins is not putting negative value of those who are still and likely will remain to be.

This is to answer/stop the very common questions of:

'Oh, so you hate sex?'. 
No, not all aces hate sex. Some are repulsed by it, some are not.

'Wait, you're not a virgin, you can’t be Asexual.’
Yes, you can. Some aces still do have sex.

Actually, your attitude seems far more judgmental than the well meaning people pointing out all sides to Asexuality.

clarification =/= judgement

treehouseforwimps:

edit: in response to some pompous tone-policing weiner who responded to this, clarification isn’t useful when it’s effectively just being a butt-pat for the status quo. the same way responding to “all lesbians are hairy smelly manhaters” with “no some lesbians are FEMININE and love men too!!!” is an unnecessary clarification that engages with toxic belligerence as opposed to addressing it for what it is, so is “some aces have sex/aren’t sex repulsed”, its not something we need to clarify, and when ppl dignify that shit with a response every time its just enforcing the status quo that there is something wrong with those things when people dont use it as an opportunity to point out what a fucked dichotomy it is that hating sex is seen as unacceptable

Ah, okay.

When clarification is used as appeasement, then yes, the appeaser is missing the point. If someone is being a git and saying things like “So you hate sex? That’s fucking weird.” and you reply with ” Oh no, sir. Some aces are not repulsed! :) “, then you haven’t done anything. In fact, as you pointed out, you are throwing those who are sex repulsed under the Social-Norms-Bus and letting that git get away with their bigotry. 

I wasn’t clear with my examples above and I apologise for that. I was intending them to act as simple examples of common questions and responses, and not necessarily in a bigoted way, but rather misinformed. Naturally, in cases like that, you’re going to get follow up questions and discussions where you can address the under lying issues and narrow-mindedness.  The first example I gave, afterall, was pretty much the exact thing you just pointed out the problem with. 

What I was meaning to point out was: facts are still the facts. Differences in sexual attitudes among the Asexual community are varied. When explaining to people what asexuality is, then such clarifications are needed because they are a truth and it’s also necessary. If you do not clarify that Sex repulsion or virginity are not criteria for being asexual, then people learn a definition of asexuality that excludes people who are asexual. Hence the problem with the second example, which may not be bashing virgins or sexually inactive people at all, but is rather people being confused with the definition of asexuality.

Posted 10 months ago

bike rides and high fives: just gonna say it againA) you dont have to clarify that “not all...

treehouseforwimps:

just gonna say it again

A) you dont have to clarify that “not all asexuals are sex repulsed!!!” when you talk about asexuality. there is NOTHIN WRONG with being sex repulsed. i am sex repulsed so ya’ll kinky queers can frickin deal

B) why do people always have to frickin say that some asexuals…

You’re acting like clarifying all the different sides to Asexuality is a bad thing, and as you’ve pointed out here, people clarify the some Asexuals are sex repulsed AND some have sex. Clarifications like these are a good thing. Just because someone is pointing out that not all Aces are sex repulsed doesn’t mean they are bashing those who are. By pointing out some aces are not virgins is not putting negative value of those who are still and likely will remain to be.

This is to answer/stop the very common questions of:

'Oh, so you hate sex?'.
No, not all aces hate sex. Some are repulsed by it, some are not.

'Wait, you're not a virgin, you can’t be Asexual.’
Yes, you can. Some aces still do have sex.

Actually, your attitude seems far more judgmental than the well meaning people pointing out all sides to Asexuality.

clarification =/= judgement